there are plenty of things wrong with our cultural models of masculinity, and we’d all be so much better off if society didn’t code so much bullshit into sexual dimorphism that isn’t really there
but prescribing MTF transition to the whole planet while tut-tutting at FTM folks is not a coherent, practical, or moral solution to that
abyssalpit said: i'm going to cry thank you for saying the stuff about FTM transition bc i swallowed whole that i couldn't be a good dude ever and i think it hurt me even though i'm happier as nonbinary
I’m glad that it resonated with you!
I mean… there’s always going to be dudes and that’s not some inherently terrible curse upon the planet. it’s not wrong to be AFAB and say to yourself “no, I’ll have the other thing.” it’s also not wrong to be AMAB and say to yourself “yeah I’m cool with this”
shaggiest said: okay i am a dfab nb person and a stranger, so apologies if this is inappropriate, but i am wondering how you feel about how cat treated trans men? do you think "don't be a dude" is as broadly important as she promoted? i am not transmasculine, and i am not asking for permission to be a dude or anything. i just really need to rethink my perspective on this.
the praxis that cat publicly argued for was for everyone to become non-men, so transitioning TO manhood was anathema to all that she stood for and it showed. I found her take on trans maleness hostile, irresponsible, and utterly lacking in pragmatism
since she needed to reconcile a free and open concept of transness with her distaste for FTM transition, she pleaded with questioning AFAB people either to settle for nonbinariness, or more bizarrely, to embrace a form of AFAB trans womanhood (an incoherent category, in my view)
"don’t be a dude" is unreasonable praxis on so many levels. much more valuable is "don’t embrace those toxic behaviours which our society inappropriately conflates with dudeness". the latter is advice that I think ought to be considered by all men, trans or cis, as well as nonbinary or bigender folks like myself who are not fully removed from maleness
THE MINUTE YOU WALKED IN THE JOINT *BOMP BOMP*
like, my sense of self is still just bigender. living as a dude feels tolerable but incomplete. that’s where I’m at. after a long-ass time I still kind of don’t know what I’m going to do next about it— I have bigger fish to fry, like my work, my financial stability, and my physical fitness.
I reject any rhetoric that suggests I have a political obligation to push myself one way or the other
Cat’s politics were, in theory, meant to Feel Super Good to people with more vague or non-binary gender identities, except, I am very likely nb, and her politics were intensely alienating to me and impossible to reconcile with anything I know about the world.
instead of being about exploring/expressing your gender in a personal way, the subtext of a lot of her rhetoric seemed to be “your gender uncertainty is a symptom of being FULL TRANS LADY and you need to become a FULL TRANS LADY immediately”
Anonymous said: i can understand being wary of myc because of her abusiveness, but why do you say that her politics are weird/awful?
They’re post-modern horseshit with no material basis, essentially an incomprehensible and hugely wordy over-reaction to truscum rhetoric regarding Authentic Transness wherein the end result is an adoption of TERF-style Social Classes Determined By Gender Assignation At Birth, but while TERFs will use gender assignation at birth to say that AMAB people are Inherently Men and thus dangerous, Cat’s rhetoric seems to have created this inverted version based on the same awful premises, wherein AMAB people become “trans women”, or “potential trans women”, with AFAB people being awful and inherently evil for no adequately explained reason. I reject all ideologies that make social classes out of gender assignation at birth as thoroughly anti-materialistic and thus un-marxist and further reject the absurd notion that Converting Men Into Girls is a realistic, feasible, or even productive way to destroy patriarchy and transmisogyny. I also reject every single fucking political position that needs 4chan memes to be stated.